Motherhood before and after Facebook

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I wonder what I did before social media?

So here’s my first Blogaholics post.  I am a mom of 3 kids.  My first two kids were born with 11 months apart. Life was nothing short of entertaining.  My kids were as energetic as my husband and I when we were children! Ninety percent of the time our sofa cushions were on the ground and our dining table chairs were turned upside down. It seemed like we were in a permanent state of playing camp. Being a young parent (I was 22) had its good day and it’s bad days.

I became a mom before all of my friends; there weren’t many people that could relate to what I was going through. When my friends started having kids, mine were the first to go through everything, because they were the oldest.  My brand of kids didn’t like to sit down and color, they liked to climb things, and build things, so life was always an adventure for us.

My older kids were born 2001-2002, an era before Facebook and twitter.  My last one was born 2009.  That means I got to experience motherhood in two different eras, also known as life Before Social Media B.S.M, and life After Social Media A.S.M.

During B.S.M (before social media) I felt like I was mothering all by myself.  No one to bounce idea’s off of, sure there was the world wide web, and there were communities on it, but I didn’t have the time to breath, let alone do research on how to truly enjoy my kids. Everything my kids did would seem either extraordinary or totally weird. I say weird because I wasn’t around a community that would tell me it was ok; kids do some pretty funny things. They were a hyper bunch, so I avoided playgroups.  I internalized a lot of frustrations and became very apologetic and concerned about my kids behavior.  That is how it was for about five years. 2006, Facebook started up, and I joined because my high school reunion was being organized on Facebook.  I told myself that I would deactivate my account after the reunion was done… that never happened.

Photo Credit Social Media Moms Go Green

I became an uber-sharer. Before Facebook, I would lose a lot of my kid’s photos/videos because they would be on hard drives, film and random albums here and there. A.S.M (After Social Media) I started saving those memories on Facebook.  I grew up without my immediate family, as they lived in Pakistan. Through the power of social media my parents got to witness the special moments in my children’s lives that were otherwise hard to share.

Social media also became an outlet. When I would post statuses like, “Too tired to cook. Cereal for everyone.” It was awesome to get at least 10 comments from 10 moms who would say, “I did that yesterday!” or, “I’m with you sista”.  Mothering didn’t seem so lonely all of a sudden because I started feeling like a part of a community.

The proverbial community is growing bigger and bigger, because moms across the board have made their presence felt in social media. We are influencers, we are gurus, and dammit we are online ninjas!

As social platforms launch the more ideas are shared; the more conversations evolve into movements. Bloggers are becoming a force to recon with. While we bloggers take on daily things like organizing, wearing multiple hats, and being fashionistas (thanks Pinterest!), we are dealing with some heavy hitting issues like social causes, anti bullying, and justice as a whole. I believe that we will bring a better tomorrow, because for the first time in history, the world has given it’s ear to the power that is known as mom, all thanks to social media!

Amber – @amberzcorner

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8 comments

  1. Christine says:

    Welcome to the PTPA Family, Amber! So excited to have you join us! I really love this post! My daughter was born in 2008 and I was just starting to get “into” social media when she was born. It was a way to connect with other moms who were going through similar experiences. Wow. Times surely have changed, huh? :)

  2. So excited to have you on our panel Amber! I love your posts and tweets and really excited to have you part of the team. I love the Before & After Social media! It is amazing the difference and what a wonderful platform for parents to have a community of Moms supporting them thru the good and bad days!

  3. Amber says:

    Thank you Christine and Kathryn! I really feel moms have helped social media evolve. I’m really excited about joining the PTPA fam, you guys are so sweet and support each other so much:) totally love that!

  4. carla says:

    This is a really great post Amber. I do agree that moms have helped social media evolve to what it is today… Very true.

  5. I’m thankful, my mother was around when my kids were young, otherwise I don’t think I would have survived. Now, social media is wonderful for me, since the kids are away at school and I can no longer work. I’m grateful for the contacts I have made, some wonderful people who are now friends.

  6. illy junus says:

    I can relate to your story since my imidiate family is not right here with me. They can engaged with me and my son through social media. And i am loving new friends from social media. They brings me new understanding and knowledge too

  7. amber says:

    thank you Carla! really appreciate you taking the time to read it.

    Cathy, i am so happy to have met ppl like yourself because of social media.

    Illy, it is very tough having a family that is not in the same country as you. before social media, my parents missed out on much of my life, because i was just not into the traditional way of using snail mail. now they are very involved with my life even if they are far away, all thanks to social media.

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