Hi everyone! I’m brand new to the PTPA blogaholics family and I’m just going to jump right in!
To most having six kid’s is a bit extreme. To most even me having six kids is extreme but I absolutely love having a big family, however often time’s other people don’t see it the way I do. I love waking up to kids laughing, yelling and playing. Nothing makes me happier than to hear little feet running through the hallways and the giggles that follow.
It isn’t all sunshine and rainbows though. Like any family we have tough times too. Having six kids just means we may have a few more than most, but it’s something we deal with when we are faced with them.
It’s comments like “Wow, I hope you aren’t having anymore kids” by random strangers at the corner store as we wait in line, or the “Oh, six kids? that’s way too many” accompanied by a sour look from the mom at the park. Those comment’s stick with me. Complete strangers who probably don’t even realize what they are saying, and how it affects the person they are saying it to it what really gets me.
Of course there is some good comments too, “Wow! What a big family. Good for you! I don’t see that too often anymore!” and “Oh, what a beautiful big family.. More people should have big families!” that out weigh the other not so nice comments, but it doesn’t erase them completely.
Those comments are still in the back of my mind. We decided to have six children, so I’m comfortable and very confident in my family and our choice to have such a big family, but there’s always that one comment that does make me wonder why some people think its a bad thing? I guess I still haven’t found the answer to that yet.
We make it work, and enjoy every second of it! My only hope is that people realize no matter how many kids one family has it makes no difference! If there’s love, happiness and health that is all that truly matters.
What advice would you give someone giving or getting these comments?
I would tell them not to worry about what anyone else says and keep doing things the way they are! You only have one life so live it the way you want 🙂 Children are a blessing. Love and happiness don’t come with limits, so why should you have to limit yourself on the amount of kids
you choose to have.
Thanks Sarah!
It’s so true. “Love and Happiness don’t come with limits. Why should you have to limit yourself on the amount of kids you choose to have” is a great way to look at it. Thank you 🙂
I’d tell them it is none of their business. Your family is your choice. I love your family and you are amazing parents! <3
It really isn’t anyone’s business how many children you have. As long as your kids are taken care of and loved that is all that matters. I know for a fact they are, you are great parents and do the absolute best that you can. Keep on doing what your doing and let the haters hate. A lot of time it’s just jealousy. You know what you can handle and I think you’re doing an amazing job!! <3
I too have six children. Though there are days that seem beyond difficult, there are many moments everyday when we just watch them and smile. My husband and I love each of them so much. If I did it all over… I would do it the same. I get some awful comments from people as well. “Omg, you’re not pregnant again are you?” and “youre done right, you’re not having anymore”. Over the years people have said some pretty hurtful things, things that angered me. Then I realized, they have no idea what they are missing!!! Some of these people have one or two children, and they know the joy that they bring to their lives. What they don’t understand is that we have 6X that joy! You are so blessed, good for you!!!
Awesome! I always wanted to have FIVE kids! You know, people will give their two cents no matter what. Perhaps people may say things about having six kids, but they also say things about those who have only one child. I can attest to that. I was called selfish and a bad mom because we only have one child. People don’t realize that there may be reasons for having the number of children couples have. Plus, it’s none of anyone’s business. I think you are blessed. Enjoy 🙂
28 and 6 kids – wow! I say good on you and what a blessing! People have an opinion about everything these days, just be happy and confident in your choice and don’t let the negative seep in!
Welcome!! I am so looking forward to your posts… I am always in awe of Momma’s with a large brood – so much love!. I would love more children, but my husband is done at two.
Hi Jeanine! Welcome to the panel!
Wow! A child is a true blessing and six is just fantastic!
I had infertility issues conceiving my 2 little ones; it can very disheartening to hear comments from folks about your family (no matter what they are) when it hits a sensitive topic.
I learned to take it with a grain of salt as most times people don’t even know they can be offending you when really they’re just so curious and amazed. 🙂
Look forward to reading your posts!
Thank you Leanne! We try!
Oh it’s so nice to hear from another mom of 6!
I think you are most definitely right. They have no idea what they are missing, and if they knew, they wouldn’t have anything to say because it is incredible!
Thank you so much for your comment!
5 kids is wonderful too;)
Oh yes, I’ve seen and heard that one before for having 1 kid. I think its so silly, and wish people would just learn that when it comes to parents and kids, its not a subject to be continuously commented on! No one truly knows anyone’s situations, or reasons for having 1 or 10 kids! I think parenting is wonderful no matter how many kids one chooses to have!
Thank you! 🙂
Thank you so much! 🙂 two is a wonderful number too!:)
Hi Carol!
Thank you!
Disheartening is the perfect word. It’s very true, It’s a very sensitive subject for many…. I always try to proceed with caution when talking to anyone about children!
I have 5 of my own children and and 4 stepchildren. My 16 yr old stepdaughter is living with us. I LOVE it all. The chaos, the get togethers and family outings. My children range from 19 down to 3. People are always saying to me “Why would you do it again?” I have nothing to say because I’m shocked everytime I hear it. My grandparents came from families of 12 and 13 kids. I also just don’t understand why anyone feels like they have a right to say anything about my life or to judge me. There are sooooo many great things about having a large family. I would have had more if I was younger..lolol
I know exactly what you mean. I had a very rough first pregnancy so when we got pregnant with my second child right after people started with their comment then. Once we had a boy and girl everyone made it known they felt we should stop after all we had a boy and a girl. When we added our third and fourth the comments got worst. You would swear I gave birth to twenty kids the way people react. I love my family and wouldn’t have it any other way and way to go for you. Big families rock socks!
Welcome to PTPA I am looking forward to getting to know you. First I would like to say Congratulations on your big beautiful family. I am a mama to four (7/6/4/2) I love having a big family. There is a comment that has stuck with me that I hold close. We were on a family hike and a older Korean man was walking towards us he said to us with so much happiness “You are RICH!” it took a moment till he walked away that it really it us. We are blessed with so much RICHNESS because of our four children. After that day all those negative comments mean nothing, because we are rich and I feel that in my heart.