My daughter loves pink. Coincidently so do I. I was never really allowed to wear pink growing up. Not because my parent’s had any issues with their daughter having a preference for girlie things. I had plenty of pink things. But I am a redhead and my mother lived by the rule that pink is just not a color that redheads can wear. Of course she was completely wrong. Sorry mom, but pink is actually one of my best colors.
My daughter’s closet is full of twirly dresses and sparkly shoes. If you lay out 3 or 4 pieces of clothing for her to pick from and one of them is pink she will almost always chose the pink one. If pink isn’t an option it will be purple. She has pink Lego and a pink bike. She is a girl and she loves pink. She also loves Barbie dolls , My Little Pony and Hello Kitty. And I do nothing, absolutely nothing to dissuade her from this fondness for pink and all things girlie. Why? Because it’s who she is. When I say that I don’t mean because she’s a girl – I literally mean because it’s who she, Molly, is.
If Molly preferred green or blue or yellow she would have a closet full of clothes in green or blue or yellow. If she didn’t absolutely adore playing with Barbie dolls she wouldn’t’ have any. If she never wanted to wear a frilly dress again I would be perfectly fine with that. And who knows – one day she might decide frilly dresses are not her thing. She is only four after all.
I know that some parent’s work hard to dress their kids in gender neutral clothing. To only give them gender neutral toys. Some even go so far as to hide their children’s gender all together. And I am not referring to the parents of children who have gender identity disorders. That is something else all together and I can only imagine how complicated that would be. But I have a daughter who is seemingly quite comfortable with her gender and I just don’t feel any need, none at all, to squelch that comfort.
In case you’re wondering – Molly loves to play with trains and cars. She has a firefighter costume in the dress up box and knows more about dinosaurs than I do. Not everything she owns, wears or does is girl-centric.
The bottom line for me is that I have a girl and I want her to be proud of being a girl. I want her to be proud of who she is period.
Hey if pink is her favourite colour, let her have it!
I like neutral things better, personally. With having a boy and then a girl, I like to be able to pass as many of baby/toddler items a long as I can for the sake of my budget!
Oh I’m sure if I had a boy and a girl I’d be doing lots of that too!
My kids are 10 months apart, boy is older and daughter loves hand me down cloths. She wears Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles and Sonic. I learned a long time ago to pick my battles and there clothing choices are not one. I love how you give her choice.
To be honest, I was adamant that none of our friends and family give Little One any pink baby clothes. I wanted everything in a neutral soft yellow or green. I didn’t want her to grow up a girly girl. You know what? It backfired. Against my wishes, EVERYONE gave Little One pink items! In fact, it looked like our house threw up pink items! Pink EVERYWHERE!
My little girl gravitated towards pink anyway. She loves everything pink, sparkly, and full of bling. I’m okay with that though. She’s a princess fairy ballerina who loves trucks, cars, and picking up bugs. I’m cool with that. 🙂
My daughter (and son) both prefer pink! I was in the same boat as Christine and at first tried to limit the pink before the kids had stated any preference, but as it became clear they both preferred it, I gave in a embraced the pink. If it makes them happy, it makes me happy 🙂
Ha! I was *THAT* mother that wanted everything PINK for my daughter.
Yes, I absolutely love the shimmer and pink and all things sugar and spice and everything nice.
However it was the opposite here. My daughter, although she loves pink and has tons of pink items, she much preferred lavender and yellow and blue and sometimes even black. She’s very artsy and expressive and every months her preferences change, especially as she gets older.
I was and still am and forever will be OKAY with anything my child prefers that is not detrimental to their well-being.
She loves cars, getting dirty and is extremely sporty. She prefers shooting bow and arrow (nerf) than playing barbies… and again, totally OK with it!
If my son grows up and prefers pink over blue, I will embrace it because I love him and that’s his way of expressing himself.
As for me, I will forever for a Pink Fan Girl for life! 🙂
*be a* Pink Fan Girl for Life.
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