I have always found it interesting that so many dads are so unwilling to talk about the challenges that they face as fathers. When I became a new dad I found that I was very concerned on being a good dad and not screwing up. Well, now that I have been a dad twice over the last 11 years, I have come to find that screwing up is natural, after all, none of us are perfect.
From the first moments that you hold your child to the diapers that you change, I know that all of it was brand new to me. I had not really spent much time with babies before and I know that I was not alone as I ran into many dads that were the same. To say it lightly I was a bit insecure as a dad at first, but the more that I ran into more dads, talked to them and started t learn from them I began to become more confidant in my own abilities.
These experiences and others over the last 11 years have made me more and more convinced on how important it is to be able to have other dads around me to be able to talk to and share with when it comes to the insecurities that I may or may not have as a father. I have been able to have some of this community through a dad blogger facebook group that Oren Miller started a few years ago, but beyond this, I began learning for myself through a series I started over six years ago called, Dad in the Limelight.
I have learned so much from the series as the dads in it really opened up and let them share their own stories which is something that is not always shared in the public media.
The series was never something that I thought would last as long as it has, but it continues to be one of my most popular series. If I am to be honest though, while I enjoy having people read about the amazing dads that I have in the series, I have even more pride in learning more about being a dad myself from them.
I hope that you start to talk to other dads around you about the experiences that they have been having. The more that you do the more you will find that you will feel free to be who you are and to accept the mistakes you make as a father too. If you want a kickstart on seeing what some other dads think of fatherhood, check these guys out!
- Dave Engeldow – http://www.dadofdivas.com/dads-in-the-limelight/dads-limelight-limelightdads-dave-engledow-daveengledow-dadchat
- Jimmy Chung – http://www.dadofdivas.com/dads-in-the-limelight/dads-in-the-limelight-limelightdads-jimmy-chung-jimmychung
- Mike Kresch – http://www.dadofdivas.com/dads-in-the-limelight/dads-limelight-limelightdads-mike-kresch-mikekresch-dadchat
- Darren Rowse – http://www.dadofdivas.com/dads-in-the-limelight/dads-in-the-limelight-darrenowse
- Ken Mach – http://www.dadofdivas.com/dads-in-the-limelight/dads-in-the-limelight-teacher-ken-mach